Why ‘belonging’ isn’t enough: The missing piece in school behaviour (Rethinking Ed with Tara Elie)

James Mannion
12 minutes ago
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What if the real driver of behaviour, attendance, engagement – and staff retention – isn’t rules, rewards, or even belonging… but mattering?

In this deep, reflective conversation, James is joined by Tara Elie – former teacher, behaviour specialist, and positive psychology practitioner – to explore the powerful but often overlooked psychology of mattering: the feeling that you are valued and that you add value.

Drawing on Tara’s Master’s research, coaching work with schools, and lived experience as a teacher, the conversation reframes some of education’s biggest challenges through a radically human lens.

Together, James and Tara explore:

Why belonging is not the starting point, but an outcome of something deeper
How low staff and student mattering shows up as disengagement, burnout, behaviour issues and poor attendance
The two-part psychology of mattering – feeling valued and adding value – and why imbalance leads to compromised wellbeing
Why many behaviour systems unintentionally communicate ‘you don’t add value’
How mattering connects to agency, resilience, engagement, meaning and purpose
What psychologically safe schools do differently – for adults and young people
Practical ways leaders can audit mattering in their schools without adding workload

This episode is especially relevant for:

Senior leaders responsible for behaviour, relationships or attendance
Educators concerned about staff wellbeing and retention
Anyone frustrated by surface-level fixes to deep, systemic issues

If you’ve ever felt that schools are chasing the wrong outcomes – or that something vital is missing from the behaviour conversation – this episode offers a language, a framework, and a hopeful way forward.

‘Belonging isn’t something you can chase. It’s what happens when people genuinely matter.’

CREDITS

The Rethinking Education podcast is brought to you by Crown House Publishing. It is hosted by Dr James Mannion and David Cameron, and produced by Sophie Dean.
Outro track: How it is and how it should be by Grit Control

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